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For example, a healthy lifestyle may be on your list of deal-maker behaviors for your life partnership. Let’s say a potential partner shows up with the looks and charm of Brad Pitt, the intelligence of Albert Einstein, the spirituality of Gandhi, and the money of Bill Gates, but he drinks excessively and has no desire to do any physical exercise.
Since I brought up apple pies at the beginning of this chapter let’s extend that metaphor all the way through with these deal-makers, highly desirables, wish list, and deal-breakers. A deal-maker for your apple pie will be to have apples. You can’t mak
Finally there are the deal-breakers. These are the dynamics, characteristics, and components which are absolutely not acceptable. Just like the deal-makers, there is no negotiation. You absolutely, positively will not accept these into your life under any circumstances. NEVER EVER!
Next is the wish list and it’s exactly that: What you would wish for if you could have anything you wanted—almost like a fantasy. It’s the cherry on top of the sundae, or as I like to call it, the ice cream on the apple pie. If the ice cream is there, great; but if not, it’s really no great loss—less even than the highly desirables. The apple pie can still be very enjoyable even without ice cream. No issues to deal with at all. That’s the way the wish list works.
In spite of all these attractive qualities, if you’ve carefully considered and compiled your deal-maker list, you’d never get involved, because that one crucial deal-maker of yours is unmet. When you know what these absolute essentials are, you’ll make sure they’re fulfilled, and you’ll find yourself feeling much more satisfied in your relationships, and in all areas of your life. When your needs are fulfilled, you are getting exactly what you wanted and intended. It’s important for you to accept nothing less than these deal-makers, these absolute, non-negotiable boundaries.
What do you have to have in life? What are those absolute, non-negotiable essentials for you? When you settle for nothing less than those essentials, you’ll find all your inner needs met. The problem is our culture has become very used to settling for less.
Going back to the life partner example, let’s assume that smoking is a deal-breaker. You meet an otherwise awesome guy who smokes, thereby creating an automatic deal-breaker. No conversation [link widoczny dla zalogowanych], no negotiation, and no second thoughts. You stick to your absolutes because you know what you absolutely have to have and what you absolutely will not accept.
The highly desirables are next, and although you may have a strong urge for them, they’re not absolutely required for happiness [link widoczny dla zalogowanych], fulfillment or relational success. Chances are you may feel some degree of dissatisfaction if these desirables aren’t present, but not to the point where you would in the absence of the deal-makers. You may be left with some emotions to process [link widoczny dla zalogowanych], but at a level which is acceptable to you and can be dealt with.
This outcome, as I see it, goes back to the fact that most people don’t know who they really are and, therefore, don’t know what they really want. When you know who you really are, where you’re truly going in life, and what you definitely want, then you’re far less likely to settle for anything less than those preferences which enhance and support your life. Live your life accordingly and you’ll know exactly what your deal-makers and deal-breakers are.
The deal-makers are the non-negotiable essentials and components in your life. They are THE requirements you have to have. Think about what it is that you must have in all areas of your life relationships, friends, romances, work, finances and home). It’s worth the time and thought you put into establishing these criteria because you’ll then know the specific goals (targets) and parameters (gauges) to guide your life.
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